Sunday, 13 July 2014

Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care.

Honey - you need to think about this!

"Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care"
Too often since we left the group you have tested our loyalty. We have defended you publically and privately against people who think you are an "egotistical nob head".
But now it seems that they were right after all?
"The forum is mine, mine, mine and if I want to destroy it I can, so there!"
Your forum friends have stopped accepting your explanations at face value. You have never acknowledged your own responsibility for the decline of the group and maybe it's time to leave the conspiracy theories behind and to stop being paranoid. There will always be people around who disagree with you, criticise you or disrespect you. Don't waste a lot of time and energy proving them right, prove them wrong instead. 
Making up lame excuses is as harmful and stressful as lying. Stop creating problems or exaggerating them to show yourself in a better light. Your defensive attitude makes your forum friends and potential supporters uncomfortable. So uncomfortable that many of them stopped posting and left the group.
Learn to say you're sorry without launching into a long-winded explanation that spreads the blame all over the place. Stop hiding behind fictitious reasons for the lack of posters. Trolls were never the issue, it was always down to the moderators doing too little to see the forum through the quiet spells that all groups have.
If you had invested your energy into finding solutions rather than creating excuses the forum would still be around. I think we all know that!
Eve July 13th 2014
Rest in Peace "Adoption and Fostering in the UK"

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